Where's the Sex in All of This?
Sex, and I do mean genital activity and everything surrounding it, is such a great thing. It is a means of communicating between people that can embody a range of possible messages. It can be intimate and close or detached and distant whether it is sex with a committed partner or a "one night stand." If we are clear about what we are doing, we can choose what any sexual encounter means. But that's the rub, so to speak. We are seldom clear about what's going on when we have sex. Our culture has done everything it can to pass on its sickness about sex to all of us. And it has installed these sick messages into us so deeply that we have difficulty sorting them out and clearing them from both our consciousness and our unconscious. We are told that sex is the key to everything. Sex sells. And the insecurities that our society installs in us drive home the message that buying something else will make us more sexually appealing according to the standard of "appealing&qu