Fairness - The Commentary

Whatever the cause – whether it’s a No Kings Rally or a display of LGBTQ+ Pride – there are numerous personal reasons to march, protest, and demonstrate. Some are based upon our own self-worth and personal values while others are guaranteed to produce frustration, burn-out, and bitterness in the long run. Further, if we take on leadership roles – particularly for demographics with a history of being marginalized and demeaned in a culture – various conscious or unconscious expectations we’ve attached to leadership, whether healthy (for us) or unhealthy, are likely to eventually surface.   Sociological observers can almost predict the problems that result when anyone takes on activist leadership of oppressed groups who have a history of hurt and pain. So many movements and institutions seem to run into leadership issues when they're at their greatest strength. And the result is many of those issues cripple the very movements.   People aren’t used to examining their own past unhe...

The current U.S. administration has turned the use of religion into an art form. Their modus operandi is to mainstream the idea that “Christianity” truly means doing ones best to destroy those over which they want to feel superior. Even those who object to it all have adopted their language and call what they are doing “Christian” Nationalism as if to confirm that what these users of religion are calling for isn’t just one sectarian religious interpretation of everything historically that has been called Christian but somehow represents all or at least the truth of what “Christianity” is. The use of “Christianity” or any of the religions to support the powerful, those who wish to impose their beliefs on everyone else, and those who are protecting their own financial and publicity portfolios has a long worldwide history that’s as old as we have human records. And it actually doesn’t have its origins in any of the religions it uses. Yet people on most sides of debates about religions con...

Two examples of how in this day and political climate we need short, bumper-sticker size slogans to get our messages across hit me this past weekend. Today’s reality, whether we like it or not, is that people are not reading long and extended discussions with nuanced “there’s this, and then there’s that” arguments in a society where religionists and one of the political parties have fully embraced the tactic that words are less to inform and more a means to excite, scare, and anger people. The first example is what struck me at the local “No Kings’ rally I attended where people held signs up along a busy suburban-like thoroughfare. The busyness of those who drove by and had no time to stop and read lengthy lists of why someone was out there, even if they honked in support, was instructive. It meant that the short and sweet and more provocative signs were the ones that got a message across. Keeping it simple reached more people even if one would like them to take the time to know more a...

Just look at her. There’s something so free about the girl on the playground who hasn’t gotten the message that she should act like a “little lady.” The playground is her place to soar, to dream of flying, driving a race car, climbing mountains, becoming a great ice hockey or soccer star, or setting new records on the basketball court. She can get dirty, tear her jeans, scrape her elbows and shins, hang upside down forever, shout and laugh uncontrollably, and make any sound from any body part that she wants. For a time in her life, there are no limits placed on her just because she’s a girl. She thinks of her body in terms of how it functions to accomplish her many dreams, not as an object judged by others. She couldn’t care less about how she looks and what she wears as long as it helps her to run fast and jump high or do whatever else she wants to do. She might be called a “tomboy,” but that’s not so bad in our culture. Our society’s sexism actually protects her for a while. A “girly...