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Seven Messages That Wreck LGBTQ+ Relationships

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Admit it. Loving LGBTQ relationships could be better.   It’s the cultural messages about ideal relationships that actually keep us from having relationships that are all we’d like them to be.   No matter how damaging these messages might be, society kas little incentive to change them soon even though some people try to ignore them. There are too many economic benefits in them for our consumerism. Maintaining these sick messages sells stuff . When LGBTQ people join the parade and fit in, they do look “straighter.” They look just like the ideal couple that our culture is selling us. Yet we may also wonder why something still seems to be missing in relationships we think should be more than they turn out to be. Here are seven false, unhelpful, but still popular, messages keeping LGBTQ+ people stuck. 1) Being homosexual , bisexual, or transgender hinders close, long-term relationships. This idea has been so universal and persistent, both blatantly and subtly, that LGBTQ people p...

Just Say No!

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Former first-lady Michelle Obama openly shared her personal thinking as she has done before on an April 23 rd podcast to explain why she is again saying “No.” Like anyone else, she didn’t have to explain herself even though she’s been criticized for her choices to just say “no.” The former first lady who, remember,   is now a private citizen, was  notably absent  from the January 20, 2025 inauguration of the current president and also bowed out of former President Jimmy Carter's funeral a week and a half earlier on January 9th, where she would have been seated next to that new president. "My decision to skip the inauguration -- you know what people don't realize or my decision to make choices at the beginning of this year that suited me, were met with such ridicule and criticism," she said. "People couldn't believe that I was saying ‘no’ for any other reason; they had to assume that my marriage was falling apart. While I'm here really trying to own my ...

When We Want to Be Courageous, a Bishop Stands Up

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The nation watched with surprised shock back on January 21 st at the sight of a national religious leader actually standing up for those she understands her Bible says to treat with mercy in a public rebuke to Donald Trump while he sat in a front row pew. Mariann Edgar Budde, the Episcopal bishop of Washington, D.C. in a 15 minute sermon at a national prayer service at Washington’s National Cathedral showed a seldom seen courage by looking toward the new President while saying: "Let me make one final plea, Mr. President. Millions have put their trust in you. And as you told the nation yesterday, you have felt the providential hand of a loving God. In the name of our God, I ask you to have mercy upon the people in our country who are scared now. There are gay, lesbian and transgender children in Democratic, Republican, and independent families, some who fear for their lives…." "The people who pick our crops and clean our office buildings; who labor in poultry farms and m...

Do the Letters in LGBTQI+ Have Anything to Do with Community?

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Don’t get me wrong: I like all the letters that could be added to become LGBTQI+. In fact, I think there should be more – the more the merrier. Now, that will drive copy editors and those who are worried that they won’t know what the short-hand version is for referring to all those souls represented with even more letters even crazier. There are people already complaining about the length of the lists now. The problem for those who gripe about it is actually a fact of reality - there is so much diversity in the world about us. It seems obvious that Nature loves diversity . But the idea of diversity makes people who need to confine everything and everyone in nice, neat boxes uncomfortable. It’s hard to admit that hardly anyone fits into a couple of our familiar, settled categories. The reactionary response to those who embrace the latest science of gender and sexuality in which those old categories that were accepted about gender are exposed as obsolete is a current example. That we kno...